1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
When I was growing up, I was given all the love and affection I could ask for. Maybe it had something to do with the fact that I was the youngest child in the family, and of the 8 and 7 year difference between me and my two older sisters that made everyone treat me like a princess. With this, I believed I could have everything done my way. Love for me was all about having others please me.
And then I met the kindest, most patient and understanding person I know. Like the family I grew up in, he gave me unconditional care and support. And with each shower of affection he showed, I realized with each passing day that I can never lose his love for me in any easy way possible. I banked on this thought a little too much that it came to a point when I began taking emotional advantage of him. My insatiable demand for emotional needs grew more and more. I was taking more than what he was able to give me. Everything that he did had to be perfect, and if not, I would bring him down and mock him for his imperfections. It came to a point when even for my faults, he’d be the one to apologize. My friends took his side, but nothing they said made me budge or in any way change the way I treated him for I was confident that I had him wrapped around my fingers. Like a helpless puppy, I led him on, striking him blind from ever having the courage to stand up for himself.
It took one line from him that turned me around completely. After degrading him to a pulp with my harsh words during one major fight, he broke down. With tears in his eyes, he looked at me and said these words:
“You know I have always believed in everything you say because I love you. And because you say I’m worthless, then I believe I am. “
That line hit me hard. I realized for the first time how selfish I was during the course of our relationship. I became needy of constant appreciation and perfection that I refused to even acknowledge my own faults. I was too proud to admit I’d been wrong the whole time. I came to realize that I had never ever apologized to him before. And for the first time that night, I did.
I prayed to God to help me become a better person, someone who accepts other people’s mistakes and forgives them. I am not perfect myself, and there is absolutely no reason why I should expect others to be this way. Love isn’t just about yourself; it’s about the other person. God, who is the perfect example of love, exemplifies forgiveness, understanding and acceptance. With this wisdom, I have learned to acknowledge my shortcomings and I have not allowed my pride to get in the way of the best relationships I have ever again.
Allen Maris Espina
Operating Room Nurse
I love what you've shared len kay na.experience pud nako na..and sadly I lost him and i'm still not over him until now..but I already accepted the fact na cguro we're not meant for each other that's why God allowed us to take different path and He always has His own reasons..One thing I can't forget was he give me up so easily T__T.. sakit kaayo...nag.pray nalng ko na maforgive na nako sya para maka move on nako..kay since nagbulag mi wala nakoy tarong na relationship..coz I think he took my heart with him when he walked away T__T
ReplyDeleteNorie! :) I haven't seen you in ages! Thanks so much for commenting on this blog. :D I do hope you can send in a story soon too! I know a lot of people will be inspired by your sharing ^_^
ReplyDeletehi nor! u could take that past experience and do better in your future relationships. it's all about learning from our mistakes. then by the time you do meet the one that God has intended for you, it will all be ok na ^_^
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